RELATIONSHIP: WHAT YOU NEED TO CONSIDER BEFORE ENTERING RELATIONSHIP.



FALL IN LOVE BUT USE YOUR BRAIN

Before you start a relationship, you must think carefully about what you are about to do. A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle lightly.
Are you ready for relationship with him/her? Are you emotionally, mentally and spiritually mature to meet his/her needs?

Being sexually attracted to her means absolutely nothing. It isn’t a sign of likeness, love or any other thing your mind may come up with. It may just be your hormones messing with your mind. 

A woman is more than her body and her sexuality; she has a life which you should be able to blend with. Can you do that?

This lady/guy has a history, can you handle it? He/she has a past, can you handle it? Can you handle his/her mistakes, failures and weaknesses? Can you handle his/her dreams without being intimidated and becoming jealous? He/she already had a life before she met you can you fit into and help improve his/her life?

Love is commitment; are you ready to commit your life to helping him/her grow and become all that he/she can be, by God’s grace? Is he/she valuable enough for you to devote a large portion of your life towards the accomplishment of his/her dream? Are you ready to pour your resources into making her all the Lord plans for her to be? If you are not ready, don’t just bother.

Before you open your mouth to say ‘I love you’, ask yourself if this is not just a moment of ‘emotional madness’. A lady needs much more than ‘I love you’. She needs your commitment. If you are not ready to make that commitment that will lead to marriage, please leave him/her alone in peace and stop wasting her time.

THINK VERY WELL BEFORE YOU SAY YES


If you are courting, discuss with your partner what kind of job he/she wants to do. Is it the kind of job that will keep him living in hotels all over more than living at home? Are you prepared for that? How will you bring balance into it? How will you reconcile your careers with the well-being of the marriage? Have you discussed and come to a conclusion that the most important thing in your marriage is firstly your love for God and then your love for your spouse? Do a lot of brainstorming. Let your goals and dreams be aligned. Don’t enter a relationship like a sheep being led to the slaughter all in the name of love! Wake up to reality.

Before you married the sailor or the pilot, are you aware he would be gone most of the time? Don’t fall in love to the extent that you cannot make use of your brain! There are people who will marry a sailor and they are okay with it and will cope with it, but what about you that have always wanted your husband to be around you all the time?

Think wise


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