MARRIAGE ADVICE



                                     
50 best marriage advice shared by experts: 50 best marriage tips ever

1. Nothing is more important in a marriage than the relationship between husband and wife.
When other things become more important, such as careers, children, and personal pursuits, trouble sets in. Make the relationship your top priority. When you do, the marriage flourishes. -
Cathy Meyer, CPC, MCC.

2. One of the most important factors in a good marriage is respect. Respect each other, avoid verbal abuse, and keep insults to yourself. Bad words are just like squeezing toothpaste out of its tube — once it is out you can never get it back in again. - Georgia Panayi, MBA

3. The best way to strengthen a marriage is to support and assist each other in being the best you can be. A strong marriage is one in which both people understand that the other person needs to have outside interests and activities which help them to feel happy and fulfilled. A strong marriage is one where both people understand that it is more important to be happy than it is to be right. - Dr. Joe Amoia

4. Couples often lose each other because of their busy lives: work, children, computers, and separate male/female activities. A healthy marriage is one that has a mix of individual, family, and couple time. The amount of each may be different for each couple, but the mix is necessary to keep a functional marriage. - Michele Seligman LCSW, BCD

5. Love your marriage by first taking care of yourself. So many of my patients say the reason their marriage fell apart is that they became depressed and disinterested in their partner. If you keep working on you, your marriage will stay fresh and vital. Start today by adding a new wedding vow to your list: Promise to take care of yourself so you will continue to age with grace and confidence by your partner's side. - Mary Jo Rapini, LPC.

6. You can change your relationship for the better by increasing the use of the following statements: " I love you", "I'm here for you", "I understand", "I'm sorry", "Thank you", "I really appreciate all that you do", "It's so nice to see you", "That was quite an accomplishment!" - Gina Spielman

7. A strong marriage is a partnership in trust. Trust your partner in everything, including purchases and financial decisions, and to bring up things with you that need a joint decision. If you can't do that, the two of you have a problem. - Donald Pelles, Ph.D., CHt

8. Always remember that life is long. In the heat of the moment, what feels super-important will likely fade in importance as time goes by. Before you react by yelling, tossing insults or unkind words, remember that "This, too, shall pass". In fact, recent studies have shown that even the unhappiest of couples report being very happy five years later. So don't let one unfortunate incident, difficult argument or challenging moment destroy your lifetime of happiness. - Melanie Gorman, MA

9. A woman needs her partner to spend time giving her his full attention and looking directly into her eyes. When she receives this, she can easily get in touch with her feelings of love for her husband and becomes much more receptive to his needs. This is how intimacy can be fulfilling for both people ... magical even! – Linda Wiggins, Executive Director for RelationSync

10. Use character-related words that honor your spouse for such qualities as patience, helpfulness, courage, or kindness. Create regular opportunities for fun, laughter, and positive experiences. Figure out what communicates love to each other and do that. Be observant and thoughtful with little things and even do chores that the other dislikes. Consciously doing what opens and softens your spouse's heart will benefit you both in the long-run and keep your marriage happier. - Susanne Alexander

11. Fair is not a four letter word. You may have forgotten about fairness, but now is the time to bring it back into your relationship. Are you both being fair when it comes to divvying up chores, communicating your needs, expressing dissatisfaction, dealing with finances, parenting, and supporting one another? If not, how can you improve and bring fairness back to the relationship? - Lisa Steadman, Dating and Relationship Coach

12. Take time to have some fun together every day! With today's hectic schedules, it's easy to find your marriage at the bottom of the priority list. Take a walk and hold hands (nature calms), couple-cook (food fight!), exercise together (tennis or dancing maybe?) or just collect a "Daily Joke" to share. It doesn't have to be expensive, but if you make the commitment and effort to laugh together as often as possible, it can sweeten your connection and cement your relationship for life. - Melodie Tucker, CPC

13. Appreciate your partner at least five times each day. Appreciate them from your heart about who they are at their essence. Leave gratitude in love notes, hide them so they will find them, or look deeply into their eyes and tell them. Be creative! - Linda Marie, RN, BSN

14. In order to keep the spark alive and avoid "roommate syndrome," couples have to understand the notion of spending "time" together versus creating "sacred" time together Spending time at social events, time with family and doing "chores" together does not count as sacred time. Instead, carve out special time to not only be intimate, but also ensure that you continue to share new experiences together such as hiking, exploring someplace new, or arranging a stay-cation in your own city. - Marni Battista, CPC

15. Compliment your spouse every day! A compliment is a sign of acknowledgment and appreciation. Make an effort to affirm your spouse's value in life, and in love. - Nicole
Johnson, Dating and Relationship Coach

16. Communication and time together are the keys to strengthening your marriage. Impossible to imagine one without the other! - Lori Edelson, LMSW, LMFT

17. In order to strengthen your marriage, learn to recognize that most arguments have shared responsibility, that both people have valid points and valid reasons for their feelings. - Kathy
Morelli, LPC

18. Accept your partner exactly as they are today. Don't try to change him/her. – Ellen Hartson

19. When your partner tells you something (about you) that is bothering him, reflect back what he is saying. When we "mirror", this helps us not feel as defensive and allows us the opportunity to better understand what he is trying to communicate. - Anne Crowley, Ph.D

20. Preface important communication with a simple yet effective introduction. Try: "Honey, I'm confused about your response to my plans for a weekend hunting trip with the guys. When would be a good time to talk further?" My relationship coaching clients have found that prefacing their remarks encourages a better, more accommodating reaction from their partner. - Greg R. Thiel, MA

21. Our brains are the only organ in the human body which do not self-regulate, but need to be in connection with another brain for healing. Sit face-to-face and gaze into your lover's eyes in order to allow the limbic system to relax. This will bring you closer and create the deepest sort of intimacy. - Mary Kay Cocharo, LMFT.


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