Marriage principles that guarantees happy, healthy, satisfying and long-lasting union (Part 3)

Marriage is not about meeting your spouse halfway 50/ 50. In a happy & healthy marriage each spouse gives 100% total commitment unconditionally & independent of what the other spouse does. The Bible doesn't say, “a man should love his wife only if she will submit.” Or, “a woman should submit to her husband only if he loves her.” The Bible just says it is the husband's responsibility to love his wife (Ephesians 5:25) & it is the wife's’ responsibility to submit (Ephesians 5:22). If the husband will commit to love his wife as Christ loved the church then he makes it much easier for the wife to submit. If the wife will submit, then she makes it much easier for her husband to love her. But God's command for husband to love & for wife to submit in the Lord, is unconditional & independent of what the other spouse does all!" Proverbs 31:29.
Most marriage problems are caused by spouses who continue to think, act and behave like they're still single. You are married. Therefore do the honorable; think married, act married and behave married. It is that simple. Falling in love is effortless and it is easy. But staying in love and staying loving is a decision, and a work that is often not so easy. Spouses that make the decision and commitment to stay in love & loving through it all will make it through all the rough times and come out stronger.
The greatest gift you can give your children is the visible example of a loving couple and the unforgettable experience of a happy home. Your children are watching you daily & with terrible exactness they faithfully record everything they see and hear. What your children hear and see at home every day is surely shaping the way they view marriage. Your children are making lasting opinions on marriage and love based on what they see and hear in your marriage.
Let your children grow up looking forward to getting married. The best way to teach your children about godly marriages is to model one. Monkey see monkey do. Let your marriage be what you want your children’s marriage to be.
Avoid boredom in the bedroom. Don’t turn your bedroom into a courtroom. Leave unfinished business, quarrels & fights out of the bedroom. Let your bedroom be a place of bonding & intimacy with your spouse. Let your bedroom be a place of peace, prayer & play. Let your bedroom be a place of security & refuge for your spouse. Let your bedroom be a place to unwind & relax with your spouse. It is in the bedroom on the sacred marriage bed where the oneness of marriage is perfected. Make your bedroom exceptionally pleasant & the most peaceful room in your house. Make the bedroom so enticing & fascinating that the thought of coming home to the bedroom will cause your spouse to leave everyone & everything to come home running to you.
Great marriages are not built overnight. Two unique people who grew up in different places, under different circumstances & from different parents cannot suddenly become one flesh. God said "the two shall become one flesh." He didn't say "the two shall suddenly become one flesh." Give God time to perfect the union. Give the Holy Spirit time transform you & your spouse. The oneness of marriage is a work of a lifetime. Thou shall not marry if you are still a boy or girl at heart! Marriage is for men and women at heart, not by age but by maturity! There are 25 years old men and 50 years old boys! Any man that beats his wife is a boy no matter his age. Any lady that connives with people to humiliate her husband is not just à girl but a baby! À good woman builds her home but foolish ones tears it down with their tongues and lack of respect. À wise man builds his home with wisdom and maturity not with boyish behavior and lack of tolerance!
The question is, are you a boy or girl? Woman or Man?
The truth is that many women sent their husbands into another woman’s arms with their razor blade tongues. Many men pushed their wives to disrespect them because they did not know how to love and treat à woman.
May God intervene in your homes in Jesus Name!

Comments

Post a Comment

POPULAR POSTS

11 TIPS ON HOW TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN HEALTHY, HAPPY AND SATISFYING RELATIONSHIPS

A strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life. Good relationships improve all aspects of your life, strengthening your health, your mind, and your connections with others. However, if the relationship isn't working, it can also be a tremendous drain. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you can get back. These tips can help keep a healthy relationship strong, or repair trust and love in a relationship on the rocks. 1: Keep physical intimacy alive: Touch is a fundamental part of human existence; studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, loving touch and holding on brain development. These benefits do not end in childhood. Life without physical contact with others is a lonely life indeed. Studies have shown that affectionate touch actually boosts the body’s levels of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. In a committed relationship between two adult partners, physical intercourse i...
Read more

RELATIONSHIP: WHAT YOU NEED TO CONSIDER BEFORE ENTERING RELATIONSHIP.

FALL IN LOVE BUT USE YOUR BRAIN Before you start a relationship, you must think carefully about what you are about to do. A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle lightly. Are you ready for relationship with him/her? Are you emotionally, mentally and spiritually mature to meet his/her needs? Being sexually attracted to her means absolutely nothing. It isn’t a sign of likeness, love or any other thing your mind may come up with. It may just be your hormones messing with your mind.  A woman is more than her body and her sexuality; she has a life which you should be able to blend with. Can you do that? This lady/guy has a history, can you handle it? He/she has a past, can you handle it? Can you handle his/her mistakes, failures and weaknesses? Can you handle his/her dreams without being intimidated and becoming jealous? He/she already had a life before she met you can you fit into and help improve his/her life? Love is commitm...
Read more

HOW TO MAKE A GUY FALL IN LOVE AND COMMIT TO YOU

Most women still want relationships with men and most men still want to find that woman that will sweep him off his feet. A lot of women have no idea what men are really looking for. Can you really make a man want you even if he is not interested yet? How can you make a guy fall in love and commit to you? What attraction can you use in order to attract men? Find out what he likes: Who is this guy you are interested in? Did you fall in love with someone who is crazy about sports? Is he into vintage cars? Does he like movies? Is he a couch potato? The key to attracting his attention is to find out what he likes, and then be the kind of woman who likes the same things to the extent that you can. If he likes cars, you need to learn about cars so you can offer some intelligent comments on the subject. Does he follow the local sports teams? Learn about sports. Learn the name of the local team and some of the most popular players. Does he like hiking? Buy some hiking boots. The ke...
Read more

WHAT MEN WANT FROM WOMEN IN A RELATIONSHIP

What women think men want from them cause women to have resentment and anger toward men, and feel hopeless about ever developing a wonderful, warm, romantic partnership. What men think women want from them causes them much of the same feelings and frustration. Here are seven things that some men say they want from women: 1. HONEST COMMUNICATION: They want a woman who answers questions honestly, and perhaps even volunteers’ information. Great men want and need straightforward, courageous communication without anger or criticism. One way to attract a great man and build a satisfying relationship is to learn how to communicate your truth and needs effectively. 2. MEN WANT SELF-SUFFICIENT, SECURE, CONFIDENT WOMEN : Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation — either materially or emotionally. Men want what women want — a whole partner. One powerful way to attract a great man and build a vibrant relationship is to create a full, rewarding life for your o...
Read more

EMOTIONAL NEEDS OF YOUR PARTNER.

Whether married or single, do not neglect the emotional needs of your partner: Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for an altar-bound-relationship or marriage to be successful, those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved. The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated. To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs: ·          Affection, ·            Attention,   and ·          Appreciation. To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs: ·          Respect, ·          Reassurance, and ·          Relief. It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy. For the married, as long as each partner is ful...
Read more