RULES FOR HAPPY MARRIAGE

SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER, LET YOUR MARRIAGE BE TEAM

In marriage it is usually not what we say that hurts our spouses; it is how we say it that really matters. The tone of your voice, your facial expressions, your body language and the choice of words make a huge difference in marital communication. As far as is possible and regardless of how angry you are, always remain gentle, respectful and courteous. Avoid name calling and keep yourself from saying anything you’ll later regret. Remember, hush words spoken in anger cut deep and can leave unforgettably deep wounds on your spouse’s heart. But “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1.

 

Marriage works when husband and wife fight together as a team for their marriage. When husband and wife fight each other, accuse each other and point fingers at each other they destroy their marriage with their own hands. Realize that the Devil, not your spouse, is the real enemy. Regardless of who is wrong, remain on the same side, on the same team, supporting and encouraging each other, and fighting the real enemy together. The greatest time to show unconditional love, unmerited forgiveness and undeserved support is when your spouse is wrong and they don’t deserve it. Regardless of what is happening in your marriage, let your marriage be team.

Don’t Preach to Your Spouse. Don’t demand love, attention, respect & affection. Rather show your spouse how it’s supposed to be done. Be the change you want to see in your spouse. Live your sermon; don’t preach it. Demonstrate your love; don’t demand it.

Don’t talk bad about your husband to anyone ever and the reverse is true to husbands protect your wife when she isn't around. Don’t ever badmouth her or let anyone else do this you are a team. Anyone who gossips about your spouse to you is breaking you down as a union and a threat to your happy marriage. That person needs to be corrected or avoided. Not condoned or humored. If they can rudely tear down your spouse, you can rudely cut them off and tell them disrespecting your partner is unacceptable and won’t be tolerated. If you are weak and allow it, your partner won’t be able to rely on you or your relationship, won’t believe you or have faith in you and outsiders will see your marriage as weak and penetrable. Your spouse should be able to rely on you and believe that you have a strong marriage. Protect your marriage, protect your spouse. Protect each others reputations

The less you focus on my spouse’s faults or complain about him, the better you feel as a couple. When you complain about your spouse and focus on his faults or worse, voice them out loud to someone else who is not supposed to hear it, you see them in a more negative light. Treat them as though you thought less of them and they respond likewise. If you focus on the positive, it effects how you see them and treat them. They notice they are happier and want to make you happier. You feel even better about them…It’s an upward positive spiral.

If you want a happy marriage, always focus on what is great about your love and if you want to tell people something about your spouse tell them what you admire, love and appreciate about him/her.