LADIES NOTE THESE

 Dearest Young Ladies.....BEFORE YOU TIE THE KNOT...Ensure there's sufficient Love, Stability, Compatibility, Loyalty, God's divine presence and Trust, before you jump into marriage with him.....Yes, Patience is a virtue and as women, we must learn to endure, but how can one endure and go through thick and thin with a man, if there's no Love. Trust me, without Love, there's no way on earth you'll be able to endure....If there's no Stability, there'll be no atom of Compatibility, without Compatibility, no Contentment and if there's no Contentment, Stability can never be attained and once this is'nt present in your marriage, then surely there can never be Loyalty and you know Loyalty automatically launches Trust......you will have no peace of mind if all these key factors are absent in your marriage and above all, you must build the foundation of your Home on God alone. Stop repeating this deadly mistake which is quite common amongs you single ladies......the fact that he introduced you to his folks does not in any way mean he will end up marrying you. Before accepting his proposal, make sure that you are both ready and capable to enter into marriage in all ramifications of life. Your domestic score card must never be anything below the radar. Make sure that you've really Dated and Courted before the "I Do".....don't rush into it, get to know your boyfriend/ fiancé intotoriously before crossing that line......if you hop into marriage, you will definitely rush out of it. Make sure that you are the only one who has his heart, ensure that his love is not divided between you and another lady......make sure that you are not are bound love, by this I mean, don't say "Yes" to him right after he has just broken up with another woman, because he needs time to heal and to completely let her go........if not there will be 3 people in your marriage instead of just the 2 of you.......and if you get caught up in this nasty web, you'll forever regret it because, he will constantly compare you to her. However...Yes I agree, it should be for better for worse, we should endure with our husbands in times of trouble, because things won't remain that way.....But that does and must not translate to you being verbally, physically, psychologically ,emotionally and mentally abused and remaining there......Truth is, when a man marries you, he has gained a good thing and obtaineth favour from God, meaning God sent him a wife, a help-mate, a lover, a real friend, a confidant, a mother for his children and a life time Companion. Understand that, he is not doing you a favor by asking you to be his wife.....don't marry out of pity, greed or sentiments, it won't work...please marry out of love...Moreover you need to ensure you're Independent because...;You are not to be a burden on your Beau, you are to be his wife, lover, friend and help mate....Yes you will forsake others and cleave to him, you will respect, honor and love him.......his family will now automatically become yours, don't see them as his family, see them as "our" family....Never you command him to respect you by force. Respect is earned not demanded. The kind of respectful aura you exude will naturally make him reciprocate it. Marriage is not a bed of roses and even if it were, roses sure got thorns.....Arguments will happen, these arguments are healthy as they will pave way for more understanding and communication between you both. However, learn to bridle your tongue when upset and keep your marital issues away from friends. Your hubby's secrets and short comings to yourself you ought to keep them and don't advertise it. Keep his shame to yourself and away from the world....try your utmost best to allow no third party into your marriage...Don't share with your friends how good your hubby is to you, How he buys you things and how much he loves/ adores you...it's none of their business. Doing this will fetch you the kind of problem you will live to regret for the rest of your life.....Above all, ensure God is constantly involved in your Home!