MARRIAGE: CHANGES THAT SHOULD COME WITH MARRIAGE FOR PEACEFUL HOME.

11 THINGS YOU HAVE TO CHANGE WHEN YOU GET MARRIED
Many people think the only changes that come with marriage are change in marital status, wearing a ring and change of surname (for ladies). They think the rest is business as usual. That is why some married people are still living a single lifestyle.
The truth is; there are a lot of things that have to change when one gets married. One's lifestyle needs to change too from a single lifestyle to a marriage lifestyle. When you get married, you have to sacrifice and give up on some of the things that you used to enjoy doing when you were single. Here are some (not all) of the things that you will have to stop (if you used to do them) and changes you must embrace /accept as a married man/woman:
1. Stop flirting with people of opposite sex and sleeping around. No matter how many sexual partners you used to have when you were single, you must now be committed and faithful to that one person; your spouse. Learn to admire and let go.
2. Stop drinking all night long, sun rising and going on drinking trips regularly with friends. Unless on special occasions but it must be with your spouse's blessings.
3. Be ready to compromise. You can longer do whatever pleases only you. You have to make decisions together with your spouse.
4. You may have to stop wearing some of the clothes you used to wear in public when you were single (do not get me wrong, I am not saying wear old fashioned clothes or like a granny). Wear smart but decently.
5. Stop all irresponsible things and bad habits that you used to do when you were single. Remember; all your actions do not affect only you anymore. They affect your spouse as well. That is why before you got married, you were only referred to as Ms Y or Mr X, but after marriage, some people will refer to you as Mr X's wife or Mrs Y's husband. You carry one another's image. Your reputation is built together and can be destroyed together.
6. Your spouse must be the closest person to your heart, ahead of your friends and biological family. (I am not saying you must abandon or reject your biological family and friends). Your ex/exes have no place in your life anymore, no matter how many kids you may have together. Make peace with that fact.
7. You must spend more time with your spouse than with your friends, phones, etc. You can have time with friends, but they must not come above your spouse. Facebook and the phone must not get more attention than your spouse and children.
8. You will now have to spend most of your free time at home with your family. Unless you are going out on an important mission and you should be in your spouse's company if possible.
9. I, me, my and mine in your vocabulary will be replaced by; we, us, our and ours. Except for "my husband" or "my wife".
10. You must let your spouse know your destination each time you leave the house and you must be honest in this. Remember you are his/her other half. He/she must know where his/ her other half is/ is going.
11. Get used to the fact that the ring on your finger is a permanent mark to remind you and everyone else that you made a vow to God and to your spouse. Never try to put it in the pocket or purse under the pretext of being single. You left single life willingly. Live with it.
You got married because you do not want to be single anymore. So why do you still want to live a single lifestyle while you're married? That is witchcraft of the highest order. How can you live in the past? If you are married and still living a single lifestyle, CHANGE before it is too late. Most importantly, make God the foundation of your marriage. "If God does not build the house, the builder's work is in vain. If God does not protect the city, the watchman stays awake in vain" -Psalm 127:1
To the singles out there who have a dream of getting married one day: Please take note of the changes in lifestyle that come with marriage and know what you would be getting yourself into. It would help you to make a well informed decision and to prepare yourself well. You must be ready to sacrifice and give up on some part of the lifestyle you are enjoying today. Marriage is more than just a ring and status.


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