THINGS THAT SPICES UP RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE



There are certain things that spices relationship and marriage; these includes love, tolerance, ability to stay together, vision, etc.
LOVE: For love to develop, it has to go through processes. Some guys are too quick to preach a sermon of love to a lady they just met. How can you love someone you just met? Someone you don't know her liabilities and limitations. I think people should learn to use some words right, you can be attracted to a person you met the first time but you cannot love the person. Some guys do go to the length of proposing to a lady they just met.
This is bad because for love to develop, it has to go through processes and any process you skip will reflect later.
ABILITY TO STAY TOGETHER: After love is another process called the ability to stay together. There are some couples who love one another so deeply, but can't stay together. Today they are getting on with one another, tomorrow they are enemies. If you ask the woman she will say he is a beast, but do you love him? She will say yes. If you ask the man, he will say she is a witch, but do you love her? He will say yes. This tells us that its not love that is the problem but the inability to stay together.
TOLERANCE: Beauty, money, love, and sex are important in a relationship but the most important is tolerance and ability to stay together. Because behind beauty, money, love and sex lies the true nature of that person in your life.
Don't think you know a person all, just develop the ability to tolerate and stay with someone no matter the attitude. You can start with your rude brother for the ladies, the guys you can start with that disrespectful sister of yours. The greatest need of a man from a woman is not basically sex or food but respect.
So any guy who can tolerate disrespect from a woman can bear anything. The greatest need of a woman from a man is attention. So any woman who can tolerate lack of attention can tolerate anything.
Don't think you can live with a person by just loving him or her, believe me love turns bitter when the attitude is awful. Money can buy anything but cannot buy attitude because its what a person is born with. And don't think you can change a person. You can influence a person to change but you can't change him or her.
VISION: Another thing that spices up a relationship is vision. As a guy, any woman can bear your child but not every woman can carry your vision. As a lady, any man can be the father of your child but not every man's vision can carry yours along.
Forget about sex, money and fine looks, look at the man's vision in life. If a man comes to you for a relationship as a lady, don't ask him how much he has just ask him his vision and how much his vision can carry yours along. Some homes today have cracks because the vision of the man and that of the woman are not the same. In this case you see the man with his own vision and the woman with hers and this results to two visions in the home which now leads to di-vision (division) which finally ends in divorce. Beauty is good, money is sweet, sex is sweeter and love is the sweetest but without vision, the home is wrecked.
Ladies look for the man with the right vision and he will always profess, protect, provide and project you forward. Guys look for the lady who can carry your vision and she will give you peace.

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